Enjoy the story below, written by embryo adoption mom Emily Hernandez.
(14) I will praise thee, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Marvelous are thy works! And that my soul knoweth right well. (15) My substance was not hid from thee, when I was made in secret, and curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. (16) Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being unperfect; and in thy book all my members were written, which in continuance were fashioned, when as yet there was none of them.
My husband is a pastor to a Spanish-speaking congregation, and Psalm 139:16 translated into Spanish says, “mi embrión vieron tus ojos,” meaning the Lord has His eyes even on the embryos that are in their mothers’ wombs, and I believe this verse extends to all embryos! This verse ministered to me in the early days of our embryo adoption journey, and I trusted that God had brought us to this path of adoption for a reason and that He had a baby already chosen for us.
Meeting at the Hospital
My husband and I met at a hospital in 2012. I was a nurse, and he ended up being my patient. I thought he was married at the time. But once he was discharged, I found out he was single, and the rest is history. The next few years passed like many other couples’: waiting for a baby to come, but it never did. We never stopped praying, though. We both love children and knew that no matter how the Lord made us parents, we would love that child as our own.
Suggestion from a Friend
In 2017, after a few months of researching adoption and agencies, a close friend of mine mentioned embryo adoption. That afternoon when I got home, my husband and I started looking at the National Embryo Donation Center website and felt like this was an answer to our prayers. Not only would it allow us to adopt, but it would allow us to experience pregnancy, which was a desire we both had. The Lord blessed our decision and helped us through every step we had to take. He also provided every dollar that we needed!
We had our first embryo transfer on September 25th, 2018, which was unsuccessful. We were, of course, very sad during this time. But we pushed forward and tried again in November. After our second attempt, NEDC President and Medical Director Dr. Jeffrey Keenan said, “Tell Jaime I think his prayers worked this time!” He was right! Seven months later our first daughter was born. She came five weeks early, but was born healthy, thank the Lord.
During our initial visit and attempts, Dr. Keenan and his staff were professional and kind. I can’t praise them enough! If my own sister wanted to try embryo adoption, I wouldn’t hesitate to send her their way.
A Special Way to Become a Parent
Embryo adoption is such a special way to become a parent. We have been so blessed to see our baby as an embryo, again at six weeks, and to feel her kicks as she grew in my tummy. She has completely changed our lives for the better! We are also incredibly grateful to the couple who donated their embryos so that one day we would have the chance to become parents. My hope and prayer is to instill an attitude of gratitude in my daughter’s heart at how loved she was even before conception!
Finally, two special gifts that embryo adoption has given us are bellybuttons and breastfeeding. While my daughter does not have our DNA, her bellybutton is the one physical part I was able to give her. And the gift of breastfeeding is an added blessing that only embryo adoption could give us.
The very best part of embryo adoption is reveling in this little person God has brought our way. She is already showing us her own personality, and we have the joy and blessing of figuring out and respecting who she is!