So many of the parents who’ve done embryo adoption through the National Embryo Donation Center first walked a long road of infertility. Whenever they share their painful stories, virtually all say they wouldn’t wish their journeys on anyone else. Thankfully, there are infertile couples who didn’t have to endure such a torturous litany of failed treatments. Jeremy and Jessica Wilson were among those who were able to avoid such long-term strain.
They met in college, sharing several psychology and English classes. “I felt sorry for him because he didn’t have a partner for a class project, so I volunteered to be his partner in our personality theories class,” Jessica recalls. “The rest is history.” Indeed, she ended up becoming his partner for life. After marrying, they expected to have children (“Jeremy says I have a uterus, and therefore feel the need to use it,” quips Jessica). But they quickly ran into the roadblock of infertility.
What would they do? There were a lot of options. One in particular stood out as feeling just right. The Wilsons were friends with another couple who’d borne triplets through the NEDC, and seemed to keep coming back to embryo adoption as a compelling choice for building their own family as well. “We liked the value that was put on these tiny lives,” they remember. “We had long talked about adopting, so this gave us the opportunity to experience both birth and adoption.” Jeremy and Jessica decided to turn to the NEDC first.
Their intuition about embryo adoption being a good fit proved accurate. The embryos transferred to Jessica had been in frozen preservation for seven years. Those embryos would grow into twins –Grant and Maria- who are now six years old. They’re finally at the point where they’ve spent almost as much time outside the freezer as inside, and they’ve developed a close but competitive brother-sister relationship. “Maria was thrilled that she was the one who lost a tooth first,” Jessica shares. “Grant has done everything else first (born first, walked, etc.) and he’s bigger. So finally she won something!”
Grant is all boy. When he gets free time away from kindergarten, his world consists of basketball, superheroes and Legos. Maria is a girly girl who, much to her parents’ delight, loves her peace and quiet. “Grant and Maria have added much joy (and noise) to our lives,” Jeremy and Jessica share, noting that the twins are also the light of their grandparents’ lives. In the case of Jeremy, an only child, Grant and Maria are the granchildren his parents otherwise wouldn’t have.
“Our lives would certainly be easier without Grant and Maria, but there wouldn’t be as much laughter and joy,” the Wilsons sum up. Unlike a lot of infertile couples, they welcomed children into their home without first enduring a long trial. As Jessica affirms, they know just what a blessing that is: “I’m grateful we went to the NEDC first. I believe it spared us from greater pain.”