What to Expect after donating your Embryos
OVERVIEW: It may take several months or several years to find a recipient couple for your embryos. We have streamlined the process for recipients by allowing them to choose certain characteristics in potential donors by using filters in our donor database. Therefore, depending on your unique profile, it may take a lesser or longer amount of time to match.
When your embryos are matched, you will be notified if you are an open donor.
In the case of closed/ anonymous donation, you will receive no further information from us. If you do wish to be notified about the birth of a child from your embryos, with no identifying information given, please let us know and we will attempt to notify you. You are always welcome to call or email to check on the status of the embryos you have donated.
If you become aware of any medical or genetic conditions in you or your children after donation, we request that you notify Flourish Consulting (for open donors) or us so that we can inform the recipient couple. This will of course be done in an anonymous manner for closed embryo donations.
ANONYMOUS DONATION: Once you complete the donation process, we will begin sharing your profile to couples as they become eligible to adopt embryos. You are welcome to contact us at any time and inquire about your embryos. We can reveal if your embryos have been adopted, if there was a birth, and the gender of the baby (or babies). No identifying factors (name, place of birth, etc.) will be revealed.
One thing that really helps our adoptive couples make their decision when viewing donor profiles is seeing pictures of a baby or child that would be a genetic sibling to the embryos that were donated and/or pictures of the parents of the embryos. All pictures that are added to a profile are kept secure and are only viewed by potential adoptive couples, who are given a passcode. You can send pictures by either email or mail if you would like those added to your profile.
If you decide the NEDC is the right fit for your embryo donation, please know we will do everything possible to give your embryos a chance at life.
OPEN DONATION: Once you have completed the donation process, we will then begin sharing your profile with recipient couples. Once a potential adoptive couple chooses your profile, we will then reach out to you via email with the prospective adoptive couple’s profile information, letter, and photo. At that time, you can choose to accept or decline this couple. If you choose to accept the recipient couple, your profile will then be sent to one of our social workers at Flourish Consulting Services, LLC. All final terms for the embryo adoption will be mediated and set by our social worker.
We have witnessed many precious relationships develop and many beautiful stories unfold among our donor and recipient couples. We are happy you chose us to be part of your journey to share this gift of hope and life with other couples. We understand that this process can be emotional and challenging for our donor couples. We are here to help guide you and support you through the matching and mediation process. Again, we are aware that not all donor and recipient couples are compatible with each other. Rest assured you will have the option to accept or decline a recipient couples’ request to adopt your embryo(s). We never want a donor couple to feel pressure during the matching and mediation process. We want you to feel supported and have the opportunity to choose a couple with whom you are comfortable sharing this gift. We know many donor couples have experienced a long and sometimes difficult infertility journey. You have now chosen to share hope and life with recipient couples. Keep in mind that many of our recipient couples have also experienced a long, difficult road to reach this point in their journey. This sometimes includes many disappointments and loss. It can be disheartening to recipient couples when we advise them that a donor couple has declined their request to adopt their embryos. Therefore, we try to give our donor couples plenty of opportunity to communicate any questions, concerns, or specific information that would be helpful in our efforts to match you with prospective adoptive couples. Some couples have strong values, beliefs, and opinions that could potentially affect their decision to accept or decline a recipient couple. A willingness to share this information is helpful to us as we work to match donor and recipient couples that are most compatible with each other. This information could also be helpful in our efforts to help prevent recipient couples from experiencing any unnecessary disappointments and/or feelings of rejection. We ultimately want both couples to have a positive experience during this process.
We also want to take this time to remind you that all NEDC Embryo Profiles must remain active and available for adoption. Our mission is to provide all embryos donated a chance at life. Unfortunately, we have had a few cases in which donor couples have chosen open donation and then proceeded with actions that made it difficult to consider their embryo profile as active and available for adoption. We would like to provide you with a few suggestions as we move forward in this process:
- We will contact you by email and/or phone when a recipient couple chooses your profile. Please remember to inform us of any changes in your contact information (address, email, phone number, etc.). We will give you ample time to review and discuss the recipient couple’s information. Please let us know if you have questions or concerns about any of the information that we provide to you. All NEDC recipient couples must meet all of our program requirements. All are thoroughly screened and must pass a legal home study. If you ultimately decide to decline the recipient couple, it is helpful if you can provide us any feedback or if there was a specific reason that led to your decision to decline the couple.
- As stated in your signed consent to donate embryos, if you are matched with and decline (5) FIVE proposed recipient couples without feedback, you will be charged $500 per year for storage fees, subject to change. If this were to occur, we would also encourage you to consider making alternate storage arrangements for your embryos.